Wednesday, April 6, 2011


Someone posted their myers-briggs type on facebook, which made me go look mine up again. I found it actually very comforting to remember, or to be reminded, to see my basic temperament printed out - I guess just that I'm not making it up when I say I'm not "like" a lot of people. INFJ, as the description says "is quite rare, less than 3% of the population." (I assume they mean western population. Who else spends their time researching and figuring out who does what and like how?)

I have been told for much of my life that I'm "different." Sometimes as a "what's wrong with you?" thing, and sometimes as a "you are very special" type thing. Wrong or special because I am different from whoever is calling me different.

For Matt, I was different because I was like him. I was special because we were the same. We weren't being "different," we were being ourselves. When one of the three percent finds and loves another of an equally rare percentage - well, let me just say that now I have to stop typing because I'm crying too much. Even though it is unusual for someone of my "type" to acknowledge that out loud.



  1. oh sweetie ... when souls kiss and entwine ... I think for some of us, you know, we just know ... he is the one. For sure. love and light to you my lovely friend. xxx

  2. Oh my goodness! I'm INFJ too and you're the very first I've ever met! This is so weird, like now I'm not so alone in the world. We are rare, I feel it in my bones every day. Was Matt an INFJ too? That would have truly been wonderful . . . now I'm crying, too. I'm so sorry for your loss, Megan, and I understand a little more now how profound it is.

  3. Snap! INFJ here too. Perhaps that's why you and I see eye-to-eye on so many things.

  4. ...which makes you even more special, dear megan.

  5. ferree - matt was INFP. Your words really helped this morning, like a sigh into - oh, someone understands. Matt and I also both tested for religious service in high school aptitude tsting, and each of us had never met anyone else who scored that, either.
    Amanda - yes ma'am. Now I lknow 3 other infjs. That should be all of us.